If they have fun together and make each other happy (which would be difficult to do without both words *and* actions), what other signs or clues would they need? The same goes for if they don't. A great relationship isn't about words or actions. It demands both, but it's about feelings. What matters is how you feel (about yourself - your life). If your world doesn’t feel a little warmer and look a little brighter with her/him in it, maybe s/he shouldn't be.
Your posts are harder to make sense of than Wittgenstein's Tractatus Logico-Philosophicus.
And since when did people in our society care about what makes them happy?
To anonymous:"Signs" and "clues" are referents to words and actions denoting a possible relationship beyond friendship. This quote makes the argument that we needn't worry about those signals if we're having fun. True, every relationship we have should make us happy--otherwise what's the point of having it? But how often do we--I can at least speak for men--over analyze a situation in the hopes of finding "clues" to a woman's motivation? We spend so much time worrying about what something means that we forget the purpose of finding meaning in the first place: to make ourselves happy.To broken570:Pineapple.To Jayemel:Is/ought.DTR
DTR - I understood the quote. My primary issue, though I didn't state it clearly, was with pitting words and actions in opposition or suggesting that one may be more important than the other. I hadn't thought about over analyzing as being something guys do, but I certainly spend a lot of time listening to my male friends analyze situations in search of clues revealing another person's motivation (romantic, professional, or other). Do you know what I almost always say to them when they're done talking (or when I'm done listening)? I say, "stop talking to me, and go talk to them."My assumptions yesterday were: 1. that the fun and happiness were, without a doubt, mutual and 2. that people who have fun together and make each other happy would want to be together. This isn't necessarily true, because it leaves out the all-too-important attraction factor. Having thought about it more, I disagree with my first sentence. You're right: we shouldn't worry so much about meaning that we're unable to enjoy the moment, but most of us do. This is why I advocate communication and favor straightforward honesty over "clues" and "signs." Humans crave security. it's natural to want to understand another person's intentions, particularly if we're having fun and feeling happy.*JML - Most people in our society care about what makes them happy (whether they truly know or are honest with themselves about what does or could make them happy, is a different story). Unfortunately, most people in our society are too afraid to be happy.***enjoying the now**ultimately, completely happy
well said, dan. well said, indeed.
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